Insanity can be defined simply as abnormal behavioral or mental patterns. “Normal” implies conformity to common standards. What are the common standards of parenting? Please let me know when you find out…
It sometimes feels like life just couldn’t possibly get any more hectic. Your plate is over-flowing, your ducks couldn’t stay single file if you paid them, and your ability to care about said chaos dwindles daily. Scary huh?
Are we, as mother’s, conforming to what’s “normal” in the world of parenting? Is insanity normal?… Must be because we certainly thrive on it.
Kids yelling…crying…begging…asking…demanding…pleading… They’re hungry, they’re tired, they’re bored…. they’re difficult. Nature allows us to evolve from the carefree years of youth into the stressful, yet fulfilling, world of parenthood.
Why do we do what we do? The piling of more and more obligation and task, I mean. As if your home wasn’t crazy enough you still pick up that second job, still attempt a hobby of your own, get a puppy, try to thoroughly clean your house…. what have you.
Truth is, we wouldn’t have it any other way. Imagine your life before all the “insanity” began… Pretty boring… Let us all accept that crazy is what makes it work. As chaotic as it is and as jagged as the puzzle seems, it all fits together perfectly in the precious world that is your family.
It’s a good morning. A morning that you are actually able to sleep in. Nowhere to go, no one to impress. No rush.
So, you’ve been in that in between state of slumber for a couple hours. Not out cold, but not quite awake. That wonderful state of limbo where you are conscious of the fact that you are relaxing and managing to still be in a horizontal position at 8am. Ahhh…. Life is good.
Then, the pitter-patter of little feet approach. You can’t help but smile being that you have had more rest than you’ve seen in months….you’ve gotta get up at some point. You have yet to open your eyes but feel your child’s tiny hand on your arm tapping you. As you slowly let the light in, the most precious face in the world greats you. “Good morning, honey”, you say with a grin. In anticipation for a huge ‘Good morning Mommy’ hug you extend your arms only to hear in response “Mommy, you need your makeup on”….
“I know sweetie, thanks”… That’s about all you’ve got to say at this point. Who knew that on a day where you were under the impression that you hadn’t a care in the world, you would be judged and insulted by your toddler first thing.
Getting up, you are now faced with the dilemma of whether to put some makeup on or not. Nothing like feeling insecure around a 3 year old. You hear your own mother in your subconscious mind saying “a girl should always look her best”…
Ehh… half ass a little makeup application so your kids will get off your back and carry on. Our children get so used to routines and things being a certain way, they often express themselves when something is different and especially when it’s not to their liking. Don’t even think about getting a haircut, Mommies….
You’ve got to give them credit, most adults don’t speak the truth often enough so kudos to our kids. Look at it in way where someone is bringing out the absolute best in you. I did need some makeup on!
In a hectic world of non-stop running and working, it is important to take a day now and again to recharge.
You’re constant. Your kids are constant. The household is constant. Constantly something to do. Life in general leaves little time to kick your feet up and breathe. Your kids are in the same boat as you are, whether they realize it or not. Daycare… school..play dates…we’re all a bunch of busy little bees. Well, bees sting when stressed.. Let’s try to avoid the pinch and burn by designating a day, as often as possible, to take it easy.
“Easy”?!… Does this word even exist in the vocabulary of a mother? Not naturally but make it so. Force it.. encourage it… work it.. make it happen. Technology has an amazing way making parenting a little less trying. Whoever said that using the T.V. as a babysitter was poor parenting, doesn’t have kids. At least not in modern day. Much like McDonald’s or Pizza Hut, parking your kids in front of some kind of technological, WIFI accessible device is okay in moderation. On these days planned to refresh your family, you have a free pass, get out of jail free card, whatever you want to call it. You are justified.
So sit your butt down with your kids. Have a Disney marathon. Watch all the Avengers stand alone movies and still wonder where is Black Widows….? Anyway, do what you can to assemble everyone in lazy mode. Enjoy the home you work so hard for. You’re paying with bills, you’re cleaning it all the time..why not stop to admire and appreciate the roof over your families heads.
Don’t feel guilty about allowing yourself some time to slow down the fast pace of today’s world. We all need it. Sidney J. Harris said it best, “the time for relaxing is when you don’t have time for it”.