Have you ever found yourself teetering on the edge of a breakdown that you had no control over? I think we all have. That moment where you’ve had one too many interruptions, tantrums, doors slammed, over due bills, or simply forgot your sons dentist appointment and you are drown by emotion. That lump in your throat chokes you, your lip and chin quiver and you try your damnedest not to let the tears fall. If you are capable of getting it together in these moments, give yourself a hard pat on the back. It’s almost impossible.
So what do we do when struck by a boo hoo fest?.. HIDE. You want to avoid your children seeing you in this state. They’re going to think they’ve done something wrong and/or be worried about their Mommy. This isn’t about them or anything they’ve done, it’s about a release of pent up stressful emotion that can not be contained. It happens to the best of us.
So, back to hiding…not only is it traumatizing for your kids to witness their Mother having a nervous breakdown, it’s just plain unattractive in general. Unless you look just like Kate Upton, snotty noses and puffy eyes aren’t flattering. Find a place where you can be alone for a few minutes to collect yourself. I know, I know, alone time is a joke. But you CAN go in the bathroom, lock the door and let the flood gates open. Timing is key here. You can’t blat like a blubbering fool for too long. Remember, your kids are on to you. Keep the release short and sweet. Get enough out to where you can jump right back in to Mommy mode and your children won’t be the wiser. There’s always going to be a next time to attempt to let some more out. Baby steps.
Hope your kids don’t find you. In fact, best to designate a hiding spot now in preparation for these kinds of episodes. Much like the fire drills you remember from grade school, it’s important to have a plan of attack. X marks the spot.
Hang in there and acknowledge that feeling this way is unavoidable when you’re a Mother. Do your best to focus on the positive things in life because there are SO many. Blow your nose and get back out there! Let’s do this!