Involuntary Abstinence


All parents are told when happily announcing they are pregnant with their first child that “having a baby changes everything”… Well, everyone was RIGHT…

It’s not just the first baby that flips your world upside down but also the second, third, fourth… doesn’t get any easier. Whether you have one baby or ten, odds are you aren’t spending much time in between the sheets (sleep or otherwise)…

How do you maintain passion in your relationship when you wake up in the middle of the night, reach for man only to find out that your sweet, cuddled up baby decided to nest down for the night dead center? Sad thing… that’s the best case scenario. Most times, you can’t even keep your eyes open long enough to give your hubby a good night kiss let alone anything else.

Solution? Be CREATIVE. Text messaging each other from across the living room isn’t weird at all, I promise! Even though odds are against any action, it can be satisfying to simply entertain the idea.

Think of the situation as a forbidden kind love. Overcoming obstacles to reach your goal can be as satisfying as the goal itself. Well, not quite but you get the point. There’s something romantic about all the effort put forth to finally have 10 minutes alone before the kids wake up from a nightmare. Every minute is gold!

Remember that there will be plenty of time to reconnect once you have an empty nest. Well, as long as you’re not too depressed, missing your kids, to perform… but that’s another blog entirely.

Finding the humor in the situation can be helpful. I mean, the very act that brought your little miracles into this world is now being put to the ultimate test because of them. Gotta love ’em!

Keep in mind, you WILL find the time. When there’s a will, there’s a way.




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